When it comes to the subject matter of Love & Courtship, involving a close relative or your parents in your love life is sometimes scary and can make you feel a bit awkward. As much as possible, you try to avoid telling them about it because you have this fear of disapproval or hearing ill-comments about your decision such as “I don’t like him” or “His not good enough for you”. But come to think of it, the more people who can give you wisdom and guidance in a relationship, the better. A person who truly cares for you and loves you will do anything and will sincerely let you know if you’re making the right choice.
I, myself, had a fair share of this kind of situation back when I first entered a relationship.
During those times, I was so afraid of what my parents have to say that I decided to keep it from them. They had no idea I was seeing someone until such time that they caught me. Oh, that was scary as hell. Kids, as much as you want to hide things from your parents, they’ll eventually figure it out, so stop fooling around ‘cause you won’t have them fooled!
I totally had no peace since I was lying to my parents as to where I’m going or who I’m talking to. I can sense that they are getting hints that I wasn’t 100% being honest to them. And so, this relationship did not last and it only left a huge scar in my heart that took time for it to be healed. Don’t worry, I’m now over it. So as a piece of advice, if you enter a relationship without your parents’ blessing, you’re only giving yourself a problem. It will eventually not succeed. You’ll end up having a hard time and getting hurt fighting for it. I’m not being negative here; it’s based on my own experiences! I’ve learned that Honesty is the best policy… Obedience too!
Besides, if you think that the one you’re dating is the Right One for you, why will you be afraid to introduce him to your parents or love ones? Shouldn’t you be even prouder to tell people about this amazing guy you are seeing?
With No Hesitations
Just like Ruth, when Naomi asked about the man who blessed her, she wasn’t hesitant to share about Boaz:
“…Ruth told her mother-in-law about the man in whose field she had worked. She said, “The man I worked with today is named Boaz.”
“May the Lord bless him!” Naomi told her daughter-in-law. “He is showing his kindness to us as well as to your dead husband. That man is one of our closest relatives, one of our family redeemers.”
Ruth 2:19-20
Stage 11: The “Introduction” Stage – God will confirm to both of you that it is the Right moment to enter a relationship that you’d have the courage to introduce him to your parents, love ones and people around you. God will see to it that you are well-guided as you seek blessing and wisdom from your parents or the people close to you in everything you are doing.
This is a season where God will give you the blessing to enter a relationship with the one He has for you.
God will cause the people around you to support and be genuinely happy for you.
No matter how hard you convince yourself that others have no say as to how or who you should love, still, it is more enjoyable to enter a relationship where the majority agrees on it. You won’t need tons of efforts to convince people to like the person you’re with. He will be accepted with arms wide open as you yourself know that He is God’s blessing for you.
Naomi whole-heartedly accepted and even prayed for Boaz to be blessed. There weren’t any oppositions or dislikes towards him. He was just right in the eyes of Naomi that she approves of him for Ruth. Isn’t that ideal for any relationships?
Blessings or Oppositions?
Since most of my past relationships weren’t approved by my parents, I saw how it went from well to hell. I happen to be hurt by guys who’s a Control-Freak—someone who have manipulated me by his words which eventually became emotional abuse; a Con Artist—a guy who pretended to be single but had multiple girlfriends all at once; and a Cheater—a guy who dated another girl during our first month. I was so stubborn that I only paid attention to my emotions instead of seeking wisdom from the people I treasure the most.
Despite all these things, I am truly grateful that God has protected me from harm that might have ruined my future. He had His ways of saving and removing me from those kinds of situations. Regardless of my hard-headedness, God caused me to obey His plans and seek wisdom from my parents. Today, I see to it that I share every happening in my life to them and above all, know their opinions with the things I do.
I do believe that once God places the right man in my life, I would get the two-thumbs up sign from my mom and dad especially now that they are pushing me to get married as I am not getting any younger.
Do you struggle the same things I struggled before? Are you afraid of what others might say about your chosen partner? Surrender everything to Christ and allow him to give you the wisdom you need. You would know you’ve made the right decision when you have peace and there aren’t anything holding you back to tell the world about it.
Remember, entering a relationship is like entering an eternal commitment of being married to this person. Are you ready to face tomorrow with blessings or oppositions? You decide…
Sincerely,
Abby Bern 
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