A guy friend once told me that most of the girls who have high standards end up being single for quite a long time. Since they’re having a hard time searching for all those perfect qualities wondering around their minds, they tend to fantasise and create their own prince charming.
After hearing that, I felt like my head was hit by a frying pan… It’s as if someone poured out a cold ice water, waking me up from my day dreaming. Maybe I’ve set my stage too high that no one has ever been able to climb it. Or maybe, God has someone for me but because I have all this wish lists, I fail to see that it’s right in front of me.
Well, ok, I surrender. Now, I’m raising my white flag. I’m taking the courage to step out of my safe zone and be open to possibilities.
Don’t get me wrong ladies! It’s okay to have standards. Having them is like having a roadmap. You’ll be able to weigh things out and know which way to go. You would have a guide not to allow any jerk deceive you.
With those standards, you would even be reminded to value yourself more. But then, set standards that are possible to meet… standards not too high for a guy to reach.
Guys, if you’re reading this, it’s your chance to have a peak of a woman’s world
Here are some of the High Standards that need to be Toned-down:
1) Hunk & Handsome
Who wouldn’t want to have someone looking like Chris Hemsworth or Lee Min Ho? All girls are hoping to have a guy they can be proud of and bring along the mall as if they’re walking on a runaway. But Ladies, wake up! Those movies or magazines were meant to suite our eyes. They’re either edited or photoshopped just to appear good. Sometimes we tend to be blinded by how they look rather than who they truly are. Yes, being presentable and stylish are one of the things I would consider in a guy but let us not fail to look at his heart.
2) Rich & Millionaire
“I won’t accept his proposal unless he has a car and a house.” It’s typical for a girl to want for a guy who is rich so that she won’t have to experience a hard life in the future. But not all guys in their 20s are instant millionaires. Understand that they are still building up their careers. It’s not like you’re going to marry someone who’s lazy enough not to go work (Stay away from them!). Do know that there are guys who strive hard to earn and has the motivation to be successful in order to give you a satisfying life in the future.
3) Multi-talented
If your looking for a guy with multiple talents, a guy who can sing, dance, paint, cook, play sports, etc., well ask yourself, ‘Am I even capable of doing all those things I’m looking for?’ You might have mistaken your ideal guy as Superman. The guy pursuing you may not have it all but be sure that what’s more important is you will be able to enjoy each other’s company and that you can help each other grow & develop new talents.
4) Very Intelligent
Every guy has its level of intelligence. Don’t set too high expectations that he knows everything. Give room for learnings and accept that some things are better to be discovered together.
5) 100% Romantic
Not all guys are born 100% romantic. Remember that most men want to maintain a tough image. It takes courage for them to show their soft side by being romantic. So when a guy exerts effort and becomes affectionate, be happy about it. Don’t demand too much. Let them do their part. Expect less and be surprised with what they can actually do.
6) Persistent
Yes, guys should always be persistent when they pursue a girl but be reminded that they also know how to get tired. Just as you want them to be patient with you, exercise your patience towards them. Don’t be too hard to get, you might push them away. Instead, try to appreciate what he does for you.
7) Sensitive
Girls like men who will be sensitive enough to know how they feel. Ladies, please do know that we are difficult to understand. I don’t know why but this is who we are. For men, we are unpredictable. I think men are sensitive enough, it’s just that they can’t really get how women function 🙂 I salute the guys who are extra sensitive. I am reminded to also consider myself becoming less unpredictable to avoid complications. Tell him what you exactly mean rather than going around the bush. Be straight to the point and be honest. Quit playing games with your heart 🙂 (90s baby can relate to this song).
Ladies, be open to any possibilities. I’m not saying go ahead and flirt anyone. NO! What I’m trying to say is just don’t be too hard on him. Give chance to someone and you never know, he might be the one you’ve been waiting for a long time
Pray and ask God for wisdom. Let Him lead you with your decisions and choices to make.
Sincerely,
Abby Bern 
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